Married Red Pill-ers? Any attempt for a “quick-fix” to relationship problems is doomed to fail.

As a man in his late 60s, I learned many years ago that people want basic respect, dignified treatment, and equality. There are some fundamental psychological differences hard-wired into the genders (men like to identify a problem, fix it, then move on; women often feel that some problems can’t be “fixed” but must be coped with), but by and large the need for equality is of paramount importance.

The MRP contingent is really promoting dependency relationships, which is the kiss of death for true relationship happiness.

Behind every dependency lies resentment, both from the strong resenting the weak, and the weak resenting the strong.

I’ve found that when each person values the other so much that (s)he feels “I’m really glad to be on his/her team,” then there’s a basis for an ongoing relationship. I think it’s based on mutual trust, respect, likeability, and affection; if you’ve got those, who knows, the relationship might even have a little love thrown in for good measure.

Comfort in your own skin is essential, and then comes comfort in being in the “team’s skin.” That’s special, and that’s what keeps people together for 48 years…..